Bullying is a fear that most people have, particularly in your adolescent years and it goes far beyond the normal childhood teasing that occurs in the primary school playground. More than 16,000 young people were absent from school or college in 2012 because of bullying. It can take many forms including emotional, physical and verbal abuse, and more recently, cyber abuse too which has been found to affect 5.43million people.
It can involve one or more people teasing, being violent towards a person or harassing somebody on an ongoing basis. It can happen in person and online, as well as through mobile phones and the internet. Whilst the thought of being bullied is a scary one, going through it is even worse, so this is your guide to help prevent bullying, and spot the signs. In collaboration with Anti Bullying Week, let's help stop it once and for all.
Bullying can be difficult to spot, as it can often happen when the person is alone and isolated, particularly if the abuse is online. The victims may also be scared to talk about it, and may feel feelings of shame. If you haven't seen the act of bullying occur, then watch out for these signs:
1. The person may lack motivation.
2. The victim is vague about particular topics, as these may often be sensitive to them.
3. They show signs of unusual behaviour.
4. They have physical and unexplained injuries.
The above signs are not a sure indicator that they are being bullied, but whatever the reason is for them, it is definitely worth trying to have a conversation with the person.
So, you think your peer is being bullied? Now what..? Firstly, try and talk to the person about it. This will clear up any misunderstandings that could have occurred, as well as letting them know that someone is there for them.
Secondly, let them know that you care. Bullying is a very sensitive topic and they may be afraid to open up and discuss it, but if you can assure them that you care and want to help them through it, this may boost their self-confidence enough to seek more help to stop the matter once and for all.
Next, include the person in your friendship group. If someone is being bullied, there is a high chance that they feel isolated and lonely, so making them feel like they have friends will be incredibly beneficial to rebuilding their trust in friends and their confidence in themselves.
If you feel like it is appropriate, it may be helpful to say something to the bully. Take care to ensure that, in trying to stick up for the person being bullied, you don't make the situation worse or put yourself in danger.
Speaking to a trustworthy adult may also help. A teacher, counsellor, parent or other adult may offer helpful words of advice for both you, and the victim of bullying.
Here at Mid Cheshire College, we pride ourselves on our community spirit and our trustworthy atmosphere, but if you do notice someone being bullied, then tell us. Visit http://www.midchesh.ac.uk/safe-and-well-pastoral-support or http://www.midchesh.ac.uk/welfare-information-and-advice to view the support that we can provide.